We avoid endings whenever possible. Endings feel like failure to us. Bill Bridges challenges us with the thought ,that at a deeper level endings awaken in us the fear of death. So we use business, structure, and the status of work and family life, to hide it from view. But it is not just endings that we fear. The aloneness and emptiness that are often felt in the “neutral zone” are just about as fearful for many modern people as endings. We fail to see that new beginnings, the kind that revitalize and inaugurate a new order of things, come out of that chaotic neutral zone. Although people talk a lot about how difficult change is, it is really the transition that is difficult. It is, in fact, common for both organizations and individuals to use change to avoid the transitions that would truly transform their existence.
